ARTICLES

Mid-Life Crisis
Arlen Keith Leight, Ph.D.

SUMMARY: Everyone gets a chuckle out of saying, “He’s going through a mid-life crisis” as if it is some childish phase creating an excuse for extra-marital affairs, buying a Harley and bungee jumping. The fact is midlife course correction is an integral part of adult individuation, the process of becoming a complete and wholly unique individual.

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SUMMARY: Just as individuals go through predictable stages of adult development so do relationships. These stages precipitate conflicts as well as clashes of needs. Mature relationships often bring on a sense of boredom or a feeling that the individuals have “grown apart.”

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Authentic Dating 101
Arlen Keith Leight, Ph.D.

SUMMARY: Two middle aged men looking for a long term committed relationship chat on Match.com and decide to meet for coffee.  Tom and Roger are both good looking, intelligent and personable.  They have a very nice conversation.  Roger is very interested in Tom, but Tom seems less than excited.  Of course, Roger is hoping Tom would like to meet for a second date. 

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Sexpert Advice: You're Just Not in My Template
Arlen Keith Leight, Ph.D.

SUMMARY. He’s gorgeous. Tall, thick dark hair, beautiful smile, great body. Everyone loves him and he adores you. You think he’s a great guy, and you really like his personality. He’s totally into you in bed, but in bed you feel NOTHING. Your friends think you’re crazy when you say you want to end it. Let’s face it, he may be Mr. GQ, but he’s not for you. He’s simply not in your template.

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Sexpert Advice: Are You A Sex Addict?
Arlen Keith Leight, Ph.D.

SUMMARY. Human behavior is very varied and quite complex. In our world of labels and categories an effort has been made to diagnose individuals who engage in frequent sexual thought or activity as "addicted". As with any behavior, sex can be taken to its obsessive and compulsive extreme. The real danger here, however, is in overpathologizing and subsequently over simplifying sexual behavior and treatment plans for curtailing sexual behavior. Creating pathology is often driven by the anti-sexual attitudes of the society at-large and a lack of understanding about the wide range of normal human sexual expression.

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The Rose Phenomena: The Seductive Allure Reels You In; The Insidious Thorns Tear You Apart
Arlen Keith Leight, Ph.D.

SUMMARY. It's a whirlwind romance. You meet the man of your dreams. He sweeps you off your feet with his charm, his charisma, his allure. He shows you effusive affection and makes you feel as though you are the most wonderful man he has ever met. He romances you and talks, however obtusely, about potential and the possibilities for an amazing life together. He lets you in on all his secrets.

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Transpersonalism and Social Work Practice: Awakening to
New Dimensions for Client Self-Determination, Empowerment, and Growth by Arlen Keith Leight, Ph.D.

SUMMARY. This article proposes and advocates integration of a transpersonal model into clinical social work practice as a logical exten­sion of the profession's inclusive perspective. The theory and practice of a transpersonal approach to psychotherapy and its applicability to social work are investigated, especially for use with marginalized populations. Transpersonalism is examined as an opportunity to enhance the worker's ability to respect and honor client self-determination, facilitate bio-psy­cho-social-spiritual growth and development, and empower even the most vulnerable in our society.

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SEXPERT ADVISE by
Arlen Keith Leight, Ph.D.

Gay and Lesbian Bed Death.A Valentine's Day Resurrection

FACT:   More relationships break up on Valentine's Day than any other day of the year.

Valentine's Day is supposed to be about roses and romance, dining and dancing, sensuality and sex.   It is unrealized expectations that create a sense of loss and the realization that "my relationship is not what I really want it to be".   The hype around Valentine's Day magnifies the emptiness and heightens the desire to have a more complete and fulfilling partnership.   The result is often separation and moving on.

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